Thursday, February 11, 2016

“How Do You Tie Your Shoes?”

“How do you tie your shoes?” That’s one of those questions that you can go through your entire adult life and never be asked, unless it’s by your child. So I’ll ask again, “How do you tie your shoes?”
          I personally interlace them once, form a loop with my left hand and using my right hand track around the left loop pulling the shoe string through the track to make a second loop, then pull on both loops to tighten. That’s the only correct way, right? Wrong of course!
          Some people do the same, but form the loop on the right side and go around. Others form two loops and then interlace them. There are those that double knot and if they have long laces and high-top shoes they sometimes take the laces all the way around the ankle and around to the front before tying.
          Of course some wear their shoes with the laces completely removed. Add to this buckles, Velcro, straps, snaps, buttons and shoes with no fasteners at all like loafers, boots and house shoes.
          The point is that each method is correct in its own way. No one method is the right or wrong way. It depends on the person, shoe and situation. In fact, the kind of shoes I wear determines my method of keeping them on my feet.
          When it comes to church life, not everyone fastens their shoes the same way. Everyone walks with a different pair, some alike or similar and some completely different.
          Not everyone likes how things are done at “church”. In worship there are different likes with the songs we choose or on the style of lesson presented. One person likes one Bible class teacher and the next person may not can sit through the class, but likes someone else. Some folks like a deep Bible study class, while others want something that just helps them get through a specific struggle in life. There are those who agree with whatever the elders say and will follow them anywhere, while others will seek more explanation before they make a move.
          Some people like an early service, others a late one. Some like a service like a worship assembly and others prefer small groups. Some like to sit in a lecture class, while others want to class with lots of discussion. Some like doing things different and always changing the way things are done and others prefer the traditional ways.
          For the vast majority of what takes place in a congregation there is no right or wrong way in the eyes of God. In fact, there are far more correct ways of doing things since most of those things that may be wrong aren’t even mentioned to begin with.
          So how do you make everyone happy? Do you try to make them all “tie their shoes” the same way? It really boils down to helping each other understand that we are all different with different likes and dislikes on how and what we do.
          Unity does not mean that everyone has to think the same way or like the same things. Unity does not mean we have the same interests and needs. Unity is understanding that everyone ties their shoes differently and as long as their shoes don’t fall off, how they are fastened doesn’t really matter.
          Being unified means to teach and lead others toward the one goal that we all have, which is bring others to Jesus. How we get there is not nearly as important as getting there. Let’s not forget we live in a lost world that needs people to lead them into a closer relationship with God.
          It’s not how we tie our shoes that matters. It’s how we walk once we have them on, fastened and are standing up.
“We continually ask God to fill you with knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you will walk in a manner worth of the Lord.”
Colossians 1:9-10

Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Years ago while in high school I was given a book by Foy L. Smith entitled "The Days of Thy Youth". In one chapter of the book he tells the story of an old gospel preacher named Theophilus Brown Larimore.

T. B. Larimore was riding out west in a railway passenger car when outlaws came along side and halted the train. The robbers boarded the car and began demanding that the passengers drop their possessions into a bag; watches, jewelry, gold coins, wallets and anything else that could be exchanged for money. They came to Larimore and he placed a few crumpled dollars into the mouth of the sack. The outlaw asked if that was all he had and he told him it was.
As the thieves started to leave, the preacher called out to the leader who returned to him. "Sir", he told him apologetically, "I find that I have misrepresented the truth. When you asked me if that was all I had I told you it was, but then discovered I had put a one dollar bill in my vest pocket." Larimore extended his hand with the dollar bill toward the outlaw. The leader of the bandits was taken back and didn't know what to say to this. After a few moments he told his men to give the preacher back everything they had taken from him saying, "It is good to meet and honest man."
It used to be that a man's word meant something. Deals were finalized by handshakes. If someone said they'd do something, they did it. The grocery stores had counter checks without names or numbers, you filled those in. You could go into the corner store and if the clerk was busy, you'd put your money on the counter and leave yelling across the way, "Money's on the counter." Our parents left the front door unlocked 24 hours a day. You could leave your bike on the driveway, your car unlocked or your purse in the grocery basket and when you returned it would still be there untouched. Oh, there were exceptions, but they were few and far between in small town America where I grew up.
Today, however, it's a different story. We lock our doors and we have security systems installed for extra safety. Our cars have alarms and we are told never to leave valuables in plain view. Our sales slip is checked when we leave a store, our garages are locked and handshakes are just a greeting.
People fudge on their taxes, lie on their golf score and blame someone else whenever something goes wrong. We don't trust the president, politicians, lawyers, salesmen and often even preachers. We follow someone’s promise with "When I see it, I’ll believe it." We feel fortunate when the waiter forgets to put a charge on our check or the clerk inadvertently charges us too little.
Kathy and I were at a restaurant a couple of years ago in Plano. When I looked at the ticket I noticed that she had forgotten to charge us for one entire meal. I pointed this out and could tell the waitress was stunned. The manager came by and asked if something was wrong, so I explained to him the situation. He looked at me as if to say "You're complaining because your bill is too low?" It took 10 minutes to get it corrected and the manager told me he'd never had anyone do that before.
It's sad when honesty and integrity are so rare that it surprises people when it occurs. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts. Yes, sometimes being honest gets us into trouble. Yes, it's embarrassing at times to admit our weaknesses or faults. But to be viewed as a person of integrity and character far outweighs the negatives.
I hope someday that someone will be able to say about me, "It's good to meet an honest man."
As bad as it may hurt, as tough as it is to do, it is always important that a Christian, whether a follower or a leader be a person of integrity. It is only then that the world will listen when we proclaim Christ.
I know that you are pleased with me, for my enemy does not triumph over me. Because of my integrity you uphold me and set me in your presence forever.
Psalm 41:11-12

Thursday, August 20, 2015

“Hauntings of the Past”

As I drove through my home town this past week I passed several times through a part of town that I rarely entered growing up in the 1950’s and 60’s. Plano was much smaller back then with a population of under 5000. The Central Expressway was just reaching that far north and the trip to Richardson to the south rambled a two lane highway going through a five mile stretch of countryside, while the same highway made its way northward to McKinney, another 15-20 minute sightseeing journey. The streets that I drove over this past week were lined with homes built and fixed up by Habitat for Humanity and other groups in Plano. The roads in this area in the 50’s and 60’s were dusty dirt roads, unless it rained of course, then they were muddy rut infested travel paths. The area was and is still known as the Douglass Community. Growing up we called it “Colored Town”.
When I think back of this era in my life I can still see the pictures in my mind of a life of segregation. I worked at A&P and often during my break would go to the coffee and donut shop across the street. I can still see the sign in the window on my right as I passed through the door, “No Coloreds Allowed”. It was part of life and I paid little attention to it. In the back of the department store downtown there were three doors labeled, “Men”, “Women” and “Colored”. On the wall was a chilled water fountain with the sign, “Whites Only” posted above it and off to the side a dirty white ceramic fountain labeled, “Colored”.
Open the newspaper to look for a house and you’d see “Houses for Rent”, “Houses for Sale” and “Houses Colored”. At the theater the “colored kids” sat in the balcony and entered and exited through the side door. There were schools for the “White” kids and schools for the “Colored” kids. As I can recall, I was only in their school once when our Advanced Science Class was asked to judge their science projects. We were amazed at how good the projects were done. Did we expect something different because they were different?
There were no riots, no major issues that I can remember. That’s the way it was in this small Texas town. We thought little of it and accepted all this as just a way of life.
As I look back it’s sad to know that life was like this for so many because of skin color. These pictures of the past are haunting reminders of the injustices and mistakes of days gone by. Sometimes you’d like to go back and just make a difference, change things and correct the wrongs that were done. Unfortunately, we cannot travel back in time. The past is past and cannot be changed or altered.
It’s like that in the church. As leaders there are times that we wish we could go back and maybe do things a little different, rethink a decision or handle a situation better. Leaders are not perfect, we make mistakes and as hard as it is we often have to “bite the bullet” and move on, living with a past failure here and there. The point is that we can’t change the past.
We can, however, change today and the future. We cannot live and serve the Lord in a world of regrets and feeling down about what has been done wrong yesterday. True leadership takes their failings, their faults, their past errors and learns from them, but they use this knowledge to do better today and even better tomorrow.
The Apostles failed several times in their following of Jesus, but you never read of Jesus reminding them of their faults and failures over and over. Their lack of faith, their lack of understanding and their quarreling were forgotten soon after it happened and Jesus went on to talk about the future with them. He wanted to make them better.
In the 1990’s the City of Plano spent more than 2 million dollars revitalizing the Douglass Community. They could not go back and change the past as painful as it may have been, but they could change today and the days that followed. Many people who lived in the community in the 50’s and 60’s still live there today. It’s their home, only now the homes are painted and the roads are paved.
Leaders need to think forward not backwards. We need to see what can be done, what works can be accomplished and what great services we can do for the Lord today. Leaders make mistakes and will make more mistakes, but the church lives by what we do today, this very moment, not by what has passed. As the Psalmist wrote, “This is the day which the LORD has made; Let us rejoice and be glad in it.”

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.
Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,
I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12-14

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Baseball’s Hottest Game

Probably the hottest game in professional baseball was a game between the Boston Beaneaters and Baltimore Orioles on May 15, 1894 in Boston. The fireworks started in the third inning when Tommy “Foghorn” Tucker slid safely into third base. At that point John McGraw of the Orioles kicked Tucker in the face and a brawl broke out, both on the field and in the stands. The umpire finally got things settled down and Tucker contemplated how he was going to get back at McGraw for his injured jaw.
          That was never to happen. With the Orioles set to bat, the Beaneaters right fielder, James “Foxy” Bannon, spotted a fire under the right field bleachers. As everyone watched he ran over to stamp it out. Everyone thought it would be put out soon and were more interested in how Tucker would avenge the third base incident and the now loud mouthed Orioles.
          Then a gust of wind came up causing Bannon to abandon his efforts. The fire spread quickly sending the bleacher spectators tumbling onto the field to get relief from the heat. The fire spread to the outfield fence and then to the main grandstands. The players ran to the locker rooms to attempt to salvage their belongings. Firefighters were called in, but soon the South Ends Ground ballpark was destroyed causing $80,000 in damage. Firefighters came from 20 miles away to fight a 9 alarm fire that spread to 12 acres, burning 200 homes and causing $300,000 in damage. The fire was determined to be caused by a carelessly tossed cigarette.
          As the firefighters rushed to the scene and hooked up the hose there was no water from the hydrant. The city had installed the hydrant, but the team owners to save money had failed to pay the $15 to have the water turned on.  The failure to pay $15 had done nearly a half million dollars in damage.
          Sometimes it’s that way in churches as well. A lot of time and effort is spent on the big things, the big events, the major efforts and the things that we see from the outside. There are times that the little things are forgotten or not given as much importance and it the scheme of things are just as important as the big even though they are not seen. What seems of little importance can often be of great magnitude down the way.
          An example is when I recently sat through a missions meeting working on a contract for some new missionaries. The congregation knows they are going and will be supported. They know they are going there to save souls. That’s the big thing. But the team had to look at a lot of “what if” or “little things” that had no impact now but could be greater down the line. What if there was unrest in the area? What if one of them became deathly sick or died. What if a family member passed away? What did it take to get settled? What would it take to bring them back? The team did a good job addressing these. They paid the “$15” to provide for the future.
          There are these little things in every part of the church work. They may not seem that important at the time, but somewhere along the way they may be necessary. No one likes policies, but you have to have them “just in case”. No one wants to worry about the little details, but without them a project can be successful or fail. Details test our patience and stamina.
          People will look to us as leaders to see how we handle the little things. Are we prepared when that time comes to face a crisis or handle a tough situation? People will follow leadership that pays attention to the little things, because they can trust them to be there for them in every situation. When they see a leader serve communion, when they watch a leader teach a children’s class, when they notice a leader serving on the pizza line or wiping tables or helping someone who is sick or praying with someone in private it’s then that they know that leaders cares for them. It’s the little things that are done that form the bonds between leaders and those who follow.
          A mere $15 in 1894 would have save hundreds of homes. It was a little thing, but like that small amount would have made a great difference in many lives, it can remind us that it’s the little things that make the life of the church grow in love and unity.
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord.

Colossians 3:23

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

Heads or Tails?
          It was December 23, 1962 and my dad and I had just watched the Dallas Texans and Houston Oilers come to a 17-17 stalemate at the end of four quarters of the AFC championship game. Houston had been down 17-0 at the half and came back with 10 fourth quarter points to tie. There was a very strong wind in Jeppesen Stadium making it difficult to kick and pass. In the overtime, Texans Coach Stram told Abner Haynes if they won the toss to choose to defend the goal facing the clock. The Texans won the toss and Haynes said, “We’ll kick to the clock.” By rule once he said “we’ll kick” the other team got to choose the goal to defend. As a result the Texans had to kickoff into a strong wind. Fortunately for Haynes the first overtime ended 0-0 and the Texans won in the second overtime 3-0.
          In the early morning hours of February 3, 1959 in Clear Lake, Iowa Buddy Holly prepared to take off to the next town on his tour. The “Big Bopper”, J.P. Richardson had the flu and convinced Wayon Jennings to give up his seat on the plane. The other seat was to go to either 17 year old Ritchie Valens or guitarist, Tommy Allsup. Ritchie Valens won the toss. The first he had ever won he is quoted as saying. Shortly after takeoff at 12:55 a.m. the plane crashed killing the pilot and all three Rock ‘n’ Roll stars.
          In 1969 Penny Chenery and Ogden Phipps both wanted a colt that was sired by the prominent racehorse, Gold Ruler. Two mares had been sent to breed, Hasty Matelda and Somethingroyal. Phipps and stable owner “Bull” Hancock set up the agreement that there would be a coin toss between Phipps and Chenery and the winner would get the pick of the foal in 1969 and the loser the first in 1970.  Phipps won the toss and selected the filly from Hasty Matelda. The following year Hasty Matelda was replaced with Cicada who did not conceive so Chenery would have to wait for her colt to be born from Somethingroyal. When it was born the stable secretary had submitted five names for the horse that the Jockey Club turned down. They finally accepted a name Elizabeth Ham came up with for Penny Chenery’s new colt. They named him Secretariat.
          Because of a coin toss, Portland, Oregon is Portland and not Boston. The two owners of the land from the east wanted to name it after their hometowns, Portland, Maine and Boston Massachusetts. Because of a coin toss Orville Wright was the first to make a manned flight. Wilber won the toss but crashed the plane so the next try was the successful one by Orville.
          Decisions by chance can be good ones when they work out well, but at the same time can end up in disappointment or disaster just as easily. It’s always risky to make decisions based on nothing but luck and chance.
          Good decision making is made when people are prepared properly. It takes studying an issue, looking at it from all sides and carefully weighing the pros and cons to make a well informed decision. In the church it not only takes these, but it takes study of God’s Word and especially a time of prayer for wisdom and understanding.
          A lot of decisions have been made in churches that have been hasty and done without thinking it through. Church plants have failed. People have been ill prepared. Churches have gotten into financial and legal troubles many times by its leaders meaning well but not seeking the wisdom that God can give. We often say we are going to have a time of prayer, but I wonder how many people take the opportunity to pray every day. How many sit down and spend time in study and honestly seek God’s advice?
          Decisions made by church leaders and members are some of the most important decisions we will ever make. They deal with things beyond the earthly things we decide every day. They deal with the spiritual lives of people. They deal with the growth of the church. Many are decisions that will affect years to come. Many are decisions that can alter lives, affecting families, marriages, children and most of all spiritual relationships.
          It would be nice to have a coin toss to help make a decision at times. It would be nice not to have to go through hours and days of discussion and debate. It would be nice to tell a family or husband or wife, heads you do this or tails you do that. It would be easy, but of course irresponsible, not knowing the outcome.
          As leaders, let us take time every day to pray to God for wisdom to make the right choices and decisions. Let us be the example by seeking God’s call for us through study of his Word. I do believe that through prayer and trust in God’s ability to lead us that the future of the church will always be on the right track. His track.

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.

James 1:5-6

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Joy of Giving
One of my favorite little stories is about a little boy named, Tim. Tim was not popular at school, often made fun of and constantly teased. His mother knew that he was picked on and as any mother would, felt sorry for him and his situation.
One Valentine’s Day the kids decorated boxes and were to bring Valentines to school the next day to put in the boxes. Tim was excited as he and his mother went to the store to pick out the cards. Tim’s mother kept wondering, but hoping that Tim would get some cards in his box. It was hard to bear the thought that he may just be left out.
When they arrived home, Tim looked over each card, picking the ones he wanted to give to each person and then very carefully signed the cards, placed them in the envelopes and wrote the student’s name on the outside in his large crooked letters.  When done he neatly stacked all the cards on the table by his bed in order not to forget them the next morning. It was hard going to bed due to the excitement he was feeling.
The next morning as his mother watched him leave the house and head to the bus stop her heart was heavy with concern. Would he be bringing home Valentines or would the kids treat him in the same uncaring manner. She told herself she’d make some brownies and have them ready when he came hope to cheer him up if things didn’t go well.
She waited impatiently for the bus to return that afternoon. As the bus made its stop she saw Tim getting off the bus and as he walked to the door she saw his head down and shaking back and forth. As he moved closer she heard him say softly, “not a one.” Her heart sank and tears began to form. Then as Tim stepped in the door, he raised his head, looked at his mom, smiled and said, “Not a one. I didn’t forget a single one.”
It makes me realize that the happiness and excitement we receive in life comes mostly, not from what we receive, but through what we give. Paul points this out in Acts 20:35 when he remembers something that Jesus said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive”. I’m glad Paul remembered that, since it is not in the Gospel accounts. But whenever he said it, it made an impression on him. Jesus was constantly tell people to love one another, to help each other and to give freely of ourselves.
Why? Maybe it’s because when we give from the heart it is also giving back to ourselves. We feel joy when we make someone happy. We feel excited when they are excited. We shed tears with their good fortune and grateful when they are blessed.
Kindling the excitement of giving is what brings joy to an individual and to a church. Always being concerned about “What am I going to get out of it” harbors selfishness and dissension. A truly happy congregation, I believe is one whose heart is constantly praying for others, reaching out to those in need and more concerned about others than themselves. Most of all when we give it not only fills our hearts but more importantly it pleases God.
And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

Hebrews 13:16

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Do You Really Love God?

As I was studying for my Sundown lesson this week I came across a story told by C. W. Bradley. If you come to Sundown you’ll probably hear it again, but I thought I’d share it this week in my Thursday Thoughts.

As he tells it there was once a young lady who purchased a book and began reading it. In a short time in disgust she threw the book aside saying, “This is the most uninteresting book I’ve ever seen.” A few months later she fell in love with a young man, they dated and were finally engaged. He was a writer and one night as they were talking, he casually mentioned the name of the first book he wrote. It happened to be the very one she had tossed aside. That evening, when she returned home, she rushed to the attic and fumbled through several boxes until she found the book. In the early morning hours as she finished the final page, she made the comment to herself, “This is the most interesting book I have ever read!” So what happened to change her viewpoint? The answer is simple, she was in love with the author.

When asked about the greatest commandment, in response Jesus gave two to the inquisitor. The first was to love God with all your heart, soul and mind. Jesus then quickly adds that a second commandment is coupled with this one, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” He then points out that everything hinges on the single concept of love for God and man.

So now to the question, “Do you really love God?” “Do you think that those we as leaders lead love God? Before you answer give it some thought. I did as I was studying for this lesson. How much we love God hinges heavily on how we love one another. Jesus said, “By this everyone will know you are one of my disciples, if you love one another.”

As leaders are we doing a good job in teaching us to love one another? We will answer “yes” of course. We teach people to take meals to the sick. We teach them to visit the hospitals. We teach people to visit shut-ins. The list can go on, but these are just acts of kindness. Paul wrote that if we speak in tongues of men or angels, if we have great faith or give all we possess to the poor, they are just empty acts if we don’t have love.

When people are talked about behind their backs, is that love? When people criticize what others are doing or not doing, is that love? When we are envious of other’s successes, is that love? When we allow ministers to be criticized without stepping in, is that love? When we allow elders to be complained about over decisions, is that love? Do we hold grudges or ill will? Do we look for faults? Do we allow things like this? Do we do it ourselves? If so that’s not love. In the case where we do this we are actually telling God we don’t love Him. As John wrote, “whoever does not love, does not know God, for God is love.” He adds “whoever does not love their brother or sister who they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.”

When people truly love the Author, we will change the way people look at each other. Realizing that God showed his love by giving his son, nothing stood in the way of God’s love for people, even when they were in the midst of sin. In the same way if we teach people to love God, we first must teach them to love each other.  When you love someone the faults and blemishes may not vanish, but will be unnoticeable or diminished, because love covers them up.

A church that becomes known as a bickering congregation or one that if full of turmoil is telling the world they are only “clanging gongs and banging cymbals”.  If someone walks into an elder’s meeting they should feel the love in the room. If someone walks into a church office they should feel the love in the room. If someone walks into a minister’s meeting they should feel the love. When someone walks through the foyer or into a class they should feel the love in the air. When someone hears the conversations of members in the foyer, over a meal, at school or at their office they should feel the love.

In short the place to start loving God is teaching everyone to love each other in word and deed. As we fulfill the second commandment we will at the same time be fulfilling the first. Fulfilling the greatest commandment can only be done in reverse order.

Now, again the question, “Do you really love God?” The question cannot be answered by anyone with words. It can only be answered by loving one another, the Jesus way.


”Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. “

1 John 4:11-12


Wednesday, September 18, 2013


In the Christmas story “The Grinch Who Stole Christmas” there is a scene where the Grinch has packed up everything in the house, except where the Whos were sleeping I guess, and stuffed it all up the chimney. He takes the Christmas tree and starts to shove it up the chimney when in walks Cindy Lou Who, who had gotten out of bed for a cup of cold water. “She stared at the Grinch (who was dressed like Santa Claus) and said Santy Claus, ‘Why? Why are you taking our Christmas tree? Why?’ The Grinch gave her a completely illogical reason, “There’s a light on this tree that won’t light on one side.” Of course the real reason was “the Grinch hated Christmas, the whole Christmas season. But please don’t ask why, no one quite knows the reason.”

She didn’t scream and yell that there was a burglar in the house. She didn’t run to wake mom and dad Who. She didn’t just stand there and watch, wondering what in the world Santa Claus was up to.  She stood there watching this act which she really didn’t understand and asked the simple question, “Why?”

It is the failure to ask that one question, “Why?”, and listen to the answer that keeps many areas of disagreement from ever being truly brought out in the open and solved. Maybe we don’t want to know, “Why?”, because it is contrary to what we think. Maybe the person doesn’t really know, “Why?”, but that come out unless we ask. Sure the answer may be completely illogical. It may make no sense to us at all. But at least by asking it gives a starting point to work out issues that cause tension.

We all have reasons why we like or dislike someone or something. It may or may not have a basis. The reason may not exist for everyone else or may even be totally illogical, but until we ask the question and try and see the other side of how people think then it is impossible for any group to come together. We don’t have to agree or like the same thing to work together, but it is essential that we understand what those standing beside us are feeling in order to best utilize talent and minimize controversy.

I’m a big Dallas Cowboy fan. I have been since I was able to get 50 cent tickets as a Junior High football player to go watch them in the Cotton Bowl. I like Romo. Why? Because he is a good quarterback and is blamed for things for which he has no control many times. I don’t care much for Jerry Jones’ way of managing the team. I don’t know him so I can’t say if I like him or not. I don’t like the Philadelphia Eagles! Why? Should you even have to ask?

A few years ago there was a lady in my Bible class that hated the Cowboys and loved the Eagles. We would kid each other the weeks that they played each other. We strongly disagreed. The main reason we got along though and were able to be open about it was because we knew why each other felt the way we did. Why? She grew up in the Philadelphia area as an Eagle fan. She had a good reason, as much as I disagreed with her, but just knowing why made all the difference in the relationship.

It’s important for unity and a good working environment to be less confrontational and more relational. The way to accomplish that is to move away from arguing about differences and moving toward trying to understand the “Why?” Maybe the reason is valid to them, but not to you. Maybe the reason is skewed by false information. Maybe the reason brings something to light that has been ignored, but the only way to know the reason a person feels the way they do is to ask them, “Why?”, then sit back and listen attentively.


“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.

1 Corinthians 10:23-24
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Wednesday, August 21, 2013

The Match

You’re in a dark room. You take a match and strike it. You can hold the match on the end and watch as it slowly burns down to almost the tips of your fingers and then, as it nears the end, blow it out. At that point the match is blackened and useless never to be used again to bring light. It is tossed away ground under foot and the room again is in the dark.

You’re in a dark room. You take a match and strike it. You place the flame of the match and light a candle. The match burns down, becomes useless and no longer brings light, and is thrown away, but the light remains because the match has shared its flame with the candle.

You’re in a room lit by the candle in your hand.  The person next to you has a candle, but it is dark. You tilt your candle toward theirs and the wick of their candle takes life, but yours remains bright even having shared a part of its flame with your neighbor’s candle.

With the light of the two candles you notice that the room is full of people with unlit candles. You and your neighbor light other candles and in turn others share their light. However, each time the light is shared it never takes from the candle who shared, but only adds to the light in the room.

You’re in a candle lit room. The light is so bright the room in well lit. You look on the floor and there lies one burned out match. Then you realize that, that one match, although it lit only one candle spread its light to all the others who had been in the dark.

We live in a world with many people who are holding an unlit candle. Maybe they are mourning the death of a loved one. Maybe their marriage is struggling. Maybe their job is on the line. Maybe they’re lonely. Maybe they’re just depressed. But mostly their day is just like being in a dark room.

We stand with a candle lit by the match on the floor. We have light and feel good. So we reach over and give a word of encouragement to the person next to us and that one little word, that simple phrase or that one act of kindness ignites their candle. From there the encouragement spreads to someone else when he says “I know what you’re going though”. And it continues from person to person.

Encouragement is a simple thing to give. I helped a lady recently with a doctor appointment. “I just love my church” she said. I had lit her candle. She told her parents and they expressed how much this church meant to them. She had lit their candle. I held the hand of the son of a member who was dying from AIDS. She was in tears and thanked me many times over. Her candle had been lit with someone caring.

We each hold in our hands a match. It is the match of encouragement. We can let it burn down or light a candle that brings light enough to be shared throughout the room. The choice is up to us.


Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.

Matthew 5:15

Friday, June 21, 2013

I Dreamed a Dream

In 2009 Susan Boyle stepped onto the stage of Britain’s Got Talent Show. At the time she was a 47 year old housewife from a small group of villages in the United Kingdom. She stepped on stage, in a plain dress and looking much more like someone who might be cooking a pan of cookies than someone getting ready to sing.

Susan was asked about her dreams. She said it was to be a professional singer much like another popular singer in Britain. When asked why she had never pursued the opportunity she told them this was the first time she really had the opportunity.  As the camera scanned the crowd, you could see eyes roll and comments mouthed to neighbors. No one took the 47 year old middle aged woman seriously. The song she had chosen to sing was “I Dreamed a Dream” form Les Miserables.  The music began and before the first line of the song were finished rolling from her voice the audience was in loud applause and the judges sat, mouths wide opened, dumbfounded at Susan’s beautiful singing ability.

Here’s the link if you would like to see the performance.

As I watched the video it crossed my mind how leaders are always talking among themselves about their dreams for the kingdom. We meet about it, discuss it, write about it and share it with each other over and over. We at times even ask members to dream. However, how often do we really ask those who sit in the pews, “What is your dream for this church?”  How often do we sit and discuss with the lay people what they want to see the church becoming? When they do tell the leaders their dreams, do leaders take the time to listen seriously?

It’s unfortunate, but many times impressions of other’s ability or what they have to say is overshadowed by some outward characteristic. If Susan Boyle had been a pretty mid 20 year old woman the judges and crowd would not have had any reservations about her dream. There would not have been eyes rolling, mouths opened or whisperings to their neighbors. Likewise “in church” it is many times the case that the more popular, more outgoing and sometimes even physical appearance that gets the most attention and is listened to more intently.

I remember in the book of Samuel how people were surprised when David was chosen king. He didn’t look like a king! He was nothing like Saul in stature. In fact he probably smelled from being around the sheep and was “in the band instead of being on the playing field”.  Yet he is the one God chose and told the people 'I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.'

I think it’s important to listen to the dreams of the members as well as leaders. To listen intently at their passions. People will rise to serve their passions for the Lord. Sure, their dream or passion may not be mine, but that doesn’t make it less important or less meaningful.

Good leaders encourage people to dream. They encourage people to find ways to fulfill their dream if at all possible. Our goal is to build up in the hearts of God’s children the desire to serve whether it be as an individual or a group. Leaders should be careful not to “throw water” on the desires and dreams of others, lest they put out the flames within their hearts for good, but rather be ready to fan the embers that glow and help them become raging fire in their hearts for the Lord.

"I will not mention his word or speak anymore in his name," his word is in my heart like a fire, a fire shut up in my bones. I am weary of holding it in; indeed, I cannot.
Jeremiah 20:9